Am I spoiling my child?

I have an 8 wk old daughter who is becoming very needy. She likes to have someone pay attention to her. It isn't necessarily that she has to be held. We try not to pick her up the minute she starts crying, we try to give her the pacifier, turn on her bouncer, etc. Now don't get me wrong if that stuff doesn't work we do pick her up and try to help her. I know that you never know what is bothering them so you have to try. There are times when she falls asleep and I want to hold her but I don't. I don't like not holding her when I want to but I also don't want her to be spoiled. I don't want her to scream when she is put down. I feel like she is too young for it really to matter right now. I feel like until she can self-sooth (suck her thumb, rub a blanket, etc), by whatever method she chooses, that I should sooth her. On the other hand though I want her to learn how to self sooth. She is beginning to suck her thumb/hand when she can find it. I am torn.